Thank You

I would like to thank you for giving me such a memorable 4 months. It has been the most happiest moment of my life. My character of eagerness of wanting to do things quickly and wanting to get things right whenever I think there's problem have indeed given u lots of stress. I suppose this is my character and I have take note in this and will be not be rushing in whatever I do in future.

Currently, I m taking time to calm down and been talking to my counsellors to reflect my behaviours, actions and seeking advices on how to improve my own life and people's life around me. I think there is no wrong or right in the relationship. It's suitability of character and the degree of compromise that can be reach. Persons with similar character would need less compromise, where as people with huge difference will need lots of compromise to make things work. Quarrels and Arguments at this stage is not a bad thing as we can see through our differences and from here we can know each other better. To be in a stage of comfort and not having any difference and discovering the problems late can be very damaging. Differences and problems discovered early will more or less give us time to react and solve to ensure these kinds of problem will not happen in future.

Another most important factor to have a long relationship is be ourselves. Often, we want each other to be happy and we try very hard to please each other very hard in order to see them happy. There's a limit of what we can do. Overdoing it will hurt ourselves. Other party will be happy but not us. Accumulating these unhappiness in our heart is really very tiring and over time we will explode. Just like what we have. Eventually we become not ourselves and gradually we feel stress and very xinku, tired and dun feel like seeing and talking to each other.

Communication is very important. It got to be 2 way. One way is not enough. I know you have try your best to communicate with me and sometimes, I never manage to absorb things in. I have say I understood and will do de but my eagerness to do things quickly pin me down. I am the sort of person who need assurance. Sometime if I think I never get them, it will make me feel insecure then I will imagine and think too much. Thinking too much at times can be damaging. I never use to think so much before in past relationship. Perhap, I m trying to hard to keep this relationship sweet, good and lasting, I tend to think so much. I get to understand that in order to cultivate a gd relationship is the same of growing a pot of plant. I need time, effort, suitable and right amount of fertilizer for it to grow healthy. In this relationship, I think I have put in too much water, fertilizer hoping it will grow fast. I just think of wanting relationship to grow but I never pay attention to substantial time and the right amount of fertilizer is required for relationship to bloom.

Afterall, time will heal our wound and we will become a better person and know what we want as time progress.